Sunday, July 12, 2009

No I haven't forgotten about you

Hi friends,

It's been a bit of a hiatus since I last wrote, huh? This past weekend my girlfriends asked, "So... where have the blogs been?" I shrugged: "It's summer...?" Excuse = lame!

Summer so far has been very Dickens: the best of times, the worst of times. For me, it's honestly been the best of times. I love my new apartment and I really love living with Mark. His friends recently asked how I liked my new "roommate." I said that mostly it's been very normal and nice, kinda quiet and peaceful. For example, right now he's in the office designing a resume for our resume company and I'm lying in bed blogging. We have our alone time but it's wonderful knowing he's a wall away. His friends, joking around, said, "So what I'm hearing is that it's not extraordinary!" But nope, it's that, too.

So while I'm in the best of times, over in newly-moved-in honeymoon-ville, my friends are having a rough go of it. Boyfriends are breaking their hearts, family stress is dragging them down, job loss (or fear of it) is prevalent.

Being happy while your friends are sad just seems unfair. I often wish I could spread the wealth, like blowing one of those poofy weeds where all the seeds scatter. Sometimes I think I'm allowed to be happy now because of all the sadness I experienced when Sally died. Not in an "I deserve it" way. It's more a feeling like there are only so many sobs in the universe and I used up a lot of my quota then. I hope my friends are using up their quota now and will be happy soon, too.

Saying some prayer for my girls tonight.



  1. I love the metaphor you used -- I too wish I could pick one of those poofy weeds and blow the puffs over to my friend, who's going through a horrible divorce right now. That's exactly how I feel -- that I want to somehow magically make it all better for her. So I'm just trying to be there for her; I check in with her almost every day, just to say hi, and to ask how things are progressing. It's all I can do for her, but she has expressed just how much it helps when I check in and keep her talking about it, so I continue to do it. That's all our friends really want from us -- someone to care and lend a listening ear. I'm sure your friends appreciate it more than you know.

  2. Marisa, I am so glad to see you back blogging, I know the summer does get the best of us...

    Happiness while your friends are sad, sometimes feels worse!

    The best thing we can do for friends in trouble times, since we have already had our share, is be there, be there...listen, becareful what advice we give, remember each one of us has to find the happiness from within, no matter what we are dealing with.

    Middle ways through my married life, there where days I thought to myself, there's no way I can continue on living like this. But in the back of my mind I remembered a friend telling me about her divorce, how she listen to the outside world for advice, that told her oh she deserved better than that, she told me the grass is not greenier on the other side.....those words stuck with me, she wished she had stayed married.

    I stayed by my man and I am here to tell you, it was the best thing that has happen to me in my life!

    So don't give up on anything in life too soon, there might just be your true happiness around the corner...

    Now when I am feeling down, I think to myself it could be worse.... and it has!

    hugs to anyone who is in a time of trouble, stay strong, true to yourself, don't give up...
    ashley :)